Simple & Minimal

facebook detox | healing mentally for 30 days


I decided to start the new year off with something I have been dying to do now for quite some time: I gave up Facebook for the month of January. And here’s what happened:

  • I realized and remembered that quality of relationships is so much more important than quantity | we’re only human. We seriously cannot keep up with as many people as we think we can. And when we try to, we get a sliver instead of the whole. This is exactly why Facebook doesn’t even let you see everyone’s posts, it manages it so you see people you interact with the most. But I have waayy too many Facebook friends, and yes, I did actually have some interaction with almost all of these people, I don’t generally add people I don’t know, but do I keep up with even half of them whatsoever? Not a chance. So why do I need these people on Facebook? What exactly is the reason I haven’t deleted more people? The fear of hurting someone’s feelings because I’m not investing in their life? The fear they will do the same? We each have our owns lives though, and it’s hard to focus on it when we try to focus on a million other people’s lives. 
  • I got closer to my son | this wasn’t just the physical act of being on Facebook, I never really was constantly on there, but I would scroll through often and I’d be in a fog from trying to keep up with what everyone was doing. I’m still friends with people I haven’t talked to in years, and I’m still friends with that girl I met from so and so’s party. It’s exhausting. It’s been amazing connecting with all different types people, people whom I met in the past and people I’m still very close with today, but it really drenched my soul and took away time and energy I could have used to bond with my son. Now I understand that Facebook does waayyy more than just take away our time – from the physical act of scrolling and commenting and liking – It’s something that you carry throughout the day. It’s a constant balancing act of trying to be happy and confident while sometimes feeling insecure scrolling through other people’s highlight reels. That isn’t real life. 
  • I spent more time picking up books and hobbies | instead of scrolling through Facebook and catching it up with people at night, I spent a lot more time under a warm blanket reading books on herbs, gardening, health & wellness. I spent time writing in my gratitude journal and printing baby pictures for a scrapbook. I even, oddly, spent more time petting my cat 🐱 
  • I felt a mental clarity I hadn’t felt in a very long time | I feel really weird saying that Facebook had a hold on me, but I just can’t simply explain why. But it did. And I think you could learn a lot about the power of Facebook if you decide to do a 30 day detox from it. I just felt fresh and focused on myself and making my life happier. My son’s life happier. I didn’t know what everyone else was doing and so I was able to focus on what I was doing
  • I felt things “really didn’t happen” because I couldn’t share to Facebook that it did | i would have times something funny would happen to me, and I’d want everyone to hear about it, or I had a great day sledding down hills with my boys, and so I had a twinge of sadness because my Facebook “world” didn’t know it happened. And then I felt another twinge of sadness that I would feel saddness from something this silly. But it was true. I felt a sense of emptiness at those times when I was doing stuff and not everyone knew about it. But then I grew to love it, and had a great day for the sake of having a great day, and not because I wanted everyone to know that I had a great day. Sadness turned to gratitude and than happiness. And now I don’t care if everyone knows what I am up to. It feels good to be private about some things, and it feels good to recognize that a tree still makes a sound when it falls in the forest even when no one is around to hear it.
  • I felt less depressed because I wasn’t feeling FOMO (I’m pretty sure I can’t use that like I did, but I just really wanted to use this word in general). It means “fear of missing out”. And when I was on Facebook a lot, I felt it often. It was hard constantly seeing everyone doing something amazing and somehow it made me feel sad because I wasn’t apart of it. Weird. I know. But I focused a lot on my own negativity when I saw other people doing all these fun things that I somehow thought I was missing out on. Even things that typically I probably wouldn’t even have cared to do. 
  • Highschool had some challenging moments for me, so when I see old highschool friends and just plain old aquintances, they bring a little bit of pain back | Facebook got popular when I was in highschool, so naturally I am friends with a lot of old classmates. Here’s the thing though, some of them just simply bring up bad energy and stale memories of the past. and yet I still keep them around. Why? Life is way too short to always be carrying around the past. It’s heavy. Let it go.

    My 30 day detox from Facebook had such a positive impact on my life that I will make a point to spend as much time away from it as I can. Actually, I still forget sometimes I’m able to use it. It’s like those 30 days reset my brain. I think my detox from Facebook had such a positive impact on me, I plan on doing it more. 

    Have you ever detoxed from Facebook? What was your experience like?

    xx,

    mamajbirdy

    Family & Baby, Simple & Minimal

    secrets of motherhood | tips for becoming a successful & organized mama

    I love the idea of starting the new year off with cleaning & organizing.  Why not dedicate these next few cold, wintry months to spending a little more time – in between those warm cups of coffee and cozy blankets, of course – to revamp your motherhood lifestyle? Here are 10 of my favorite easy tips I use to keep every soul in my home happy + healthy.

    1. establish a routine- essential to the flow of the day and keeping my little one able to predict what’s next. Children thrive off of structure and routine. But remember to be flexible too, because some days you really do just have to go with the flow. You know what I’m saying, mama. 
    2. have a space to keep all of your essentials – you need a space to keep everything organized, whether that be a desk or a command center. I personally use a desk that has all my essentials close by. I have binders specific to a few things I find important (like meal planning, recipes, emergency contacts, my son’s pediatrician and medical information, files for recent paperwork I need to quickly refer to, etc.) I also keep important camera equipment here, as well as a variety of basic office supplies. Michael’s has some great, inexpensive books that can keep every aspect of your life on track – totally not kidding! 
    3. buy a planner + use it religiously – I recently purchased my 2017 planner from Walmart and it was a whopping $8, compared to the fancy ones you’d find elsewhere. I did go to Michael’s though and I purchased a “Mom Sticker Kit” to use with my planner. It has 1500 stickers perfect for my motherhood lifestyle. Play dates, meal planning, workouts, appointments, family time. I mean how cute is the “motherhood is powered by coffee and love” quote sticker?  ❤ I think adding these little touches is what makes such a mundane task more beautiful and enjoyable. I check this planner daily, and although I also use the calendar on my iPhone while I’m out, I immediately transfer what’s in that calendar to this one. Im always afraid my phone is going to get smashed (with the way I drop it), or crash, and then I’m going to lose all my important dates, events, and birthdays. But most importantly, I love that I can hold my planner in my hands. Paper and pen would never go out of style if we’re up to me. Write, and add your own personal touches. In no time, you’ll  find joy in the ordinary everywhere you go. 
    4. “have nothing in your home that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful” ~William Morris | always keep a donation box somewhere in your home. Try to fill it up regularly. If you bring something into your home, it’s probably a good idea to bring two things out of your home. Clutter takes away from motherhood in a sense that you will spend more time cleaning than you would with your little ones. And that’s just not very happy or healthy for all included. 
    5. use Sundays to relax and to prepare for the upcoming week – and whether that’s meal planning, or prepping meals ahead of time, do whatever you feel will help guide you through the work week. Set out clothes you want to wear that week, and try to make yourself have less things to worry about during your busy days.
    6. eat healthy, exercise, and get enough sleep – if mama’s not happy, no one is going to be happy really. Us mamas in a sense are like the glue of the home. Take pride in this. We contribute in ways men can’t, and vis versa.  Take care of yourself and you’ll see that you have more energy to take care of the ones you adore. 
    7. have a nighttime routine – put a little end table next to your bed to be filled with books. Drink sleepy time tea, unplug, write in a gratitude book or you children’s baby books, make out your to do list, and make sure to star the top three most important things you want to get done for the following day. This keeps you on track and powers the next day with focus and direction. 
    8. research. study. learn. & grow – i always dedicate a little time to engulf myself into hobbies that benefit my family. Lately those include things like home apothecary, gardening, canning + preserving, essential oils, & DIY projects. 
    9. use Pinterest to become an organizational mothering guru – I get so motivated while browsing through Pinterest. I particularly love how much dedication there is to organization and ideas to simplify my life. And how so many other people love this kind of stuff too. I feel empowered when I can do things myself, and when I can find safe alternatives and DIY’s to products I don’t want to use in my home. If there are ways out there to make my life easier, happier, healthier and more peaceful, I want to discover it, learn it, and grow from it. 
    10. Follow other mothers on Instagram to get motivated – { with the understandimg that what you see is certainly not always what you get, and comparison can be the thief of joy } with that being said, there is an incredible community of mothers on Instagram who offer amazing advice and snapshots into how they keep the flow of theirs homes, and what they keep at the heart of it. Don’t be afraid to indulge a little into the lives of others, and to check out what other people are up do. Do so with caution. Always remember that you are your own person, what may have worked for them may not work for you, just be authentic in the process and you’ll find that you will learn and grow from this. Sometimes I find some really amazing ideas through these mothers. And sometimes I realize I’m not so different after all. And that motherhood is an adventure, scary at times, but nonetheless the most amazing adventure. And in a way, we are all in this together, so spread some love – you never know what it could start. 

    What are your favorite tips to becoming a more successful and organized mother? I would love to hear from you! 

    xx,

    mamajbirdy 

    Simple & Minimal

    2017 | love your soul

    I’m in love with new starts and seasons. The feeling of opening a fresh new planner for a fresh new year. I love seeing January’s dates bare and ready to be filled with exciting events, plans, and beautiful   organization. I adore these simple pages because I always have been, and always will be, a strong believer that every day is a new chance to turn it all around. To let go of the mistakes you may have made yesterday and let the past finally losening its grasp you allowed it to have on you for so long. That’s the thing about a new day: you start fresh. So when the end of the year rolls around, I get excited thinking of all the possibilities that the next year may bring. What will I accomplish? What is calling my soul? How can I live a happier, more fullfilling life?

    In order to accomplish what you have in mind for the new year, it’s incredibly important and powerful to get into the right mindset. This, along with a little preparation, is such a rewarding way to start clean. Like curling up to a good book under a cozy blanket smelling of fresh linen. A cluttered house you’ve organized and created into a clean home. These are the simple joyous moments. 

    I wanted to share a few of my favorite quotes that I truly believe will help get your heart and soul talking. Grab a cup of hot tea with lemon, a sweater, and relax while you read these. Think deeply about what your heart thinks, feels, and tells you. Are you happy? Is life the way you always imagined it would be? What is it that you hope to accomplish in 2017?

    I hope you, too, feel these quotes to be incredibly powerful and motivating, yet very simple & peaceful. 


    Happy New Year. 

    x mamajbirdy